Online Dating Tips For Divorced Men Over 50

What I want to write about is the hard and fast truth about online dating for older divorced men. This is firsthand experience from myself and what I've experienced so far (5 months online). Grab a beer or cup of java and enjoy.

Online Dating  Tips - Beware Women Have All The Control 

Most dating sites like Match.com; OK Cupid; Bumble; Zoosk; and even Tinder give all the control to the women. Almost to the point us older, divorced men are chasing, which in my opinion is a very weak position to be in when it comes to landing a high-quality woman.

Like I did, you create your profile, upload some killer photo's and sit back for the barrage of women to hit you up. Not gonna happen, amigo! I'm sorry to crush your ideal, but this is reality, and I'm here to share with you what I've seen so far.

When you "like" a profile and send a message, just know an average looking woman online will get 20 or more messages every day! You heard that right. It's absolutely crazy, as that is not what happens to these same women offline in the real world.

I read in an article (I will link to it when I find it) that women online have a distorted view of both themselves and their sexual market value.

In the article it states something like women that are a 3-4 on a scale of 1-10 hotness, are a 6-8 online. I would tend to agree as that is what I see all the time. Women that are as low as a 2, can present themselves and be perceived as high as a 6 online.

Crazy I know, but you need to know this going in or you'll be disappointed right away.

I want you to imagine you are a needle in a haystack on most of these sites, unless you stand out with great pictures and a witty profile bio. There is hope but you've really got to up your game to have any chance attracting a high-quality woman.

Tip: When you message a woman, be patient. If she does not get back to you in 24 hours, delete (forget) her and move on. 

Below is some direction I want to give you based on my own experiences. Enjoy.

Women's Online Pictures And What You Need To Know

I learned this the hard way, but for you lucky readers, soak up all this knowledge, apply it, and you'll be way ahead of all your male counterparts.

Look At All Their Pictures Before Connecting With Them

Makes sense right! Oh...how important this is. Women will always put their best picture as their profile to gain as much attention as they can. The majority of the time this will be a filtered or photoshopped picture that looks nothing like them when you meet in person.

It is critical you go through each picture and look closely. I have seen some decent profile headshots and then they unwisely put one that is picture number 8 where they did not photoshop it, no filter, no makeup at all, not the same angle (angles are a big deal), and they look like a different woman. I will find an example and post it later. It really is shocking.

Headshots Only - Beware

This is a huge red flag that I did not know about until I went on approximately 12 dates (different women). Common sense says if divorced women are only showing their faces they are hiding something. Call me naive at first, this didn't register with me until many dates as mentioned above. For some of you, body may not be important, so go on your gut based on their headshots. 

Blurred Pictures - Are You Kidding Me!

Okay ladies. This is 2018 and there is no reason whatsoever to have low-quality pictures in your online dating profile. Even older smartphones take pictures for the web that are not blurry. When I see low-quality, blurred pictures that tells me the pictures are older and not showing what the women really look like currently. 

There really should be rules with these websites that they will not accept low quality pictures. It's misleading in the least, and very disappointing when you meet in person.

Dated Pictures - Have No Words

This is a big pet peeve of mine! I hate it when women on dating websites post pictures that are not only dated, but many are years old. That is ridiculous! Totally misleading and should not be accepted by these websites. No way!

I feel a date should be required on all pictures. And picture cannot be older than 6 months as a lot of people can dramatically change in that time period.

Far Away Pictures - You Can't Hide From Us

And lastly, you have the pictures where the women are way far away. The funny thing about that is we can expand the pictures on our phone anyways, even though it does distort them a bit. But we, divorced men can still get a good idea of how you look. 

Women's Online Dating Profiles

Here is where it gets fun for us older divorced men who have life wisdom.

No Hookups

This one really makes me laugh the most.

We are all adults here, and us older men who still have a strong sexual appetite no you women like sex too. You might not think about it as much as we do, but if you are in your late 40's and 50's, most likely you have not had much action in a while.

We get it! You don't want to look like a whore. But... when you post pictures of yourself in clad swimsuits, tops that barely cover your tits, skin-tight outfits in high heeled shoes, what do you think you're projecting out in world?

So grow the fuck up, and if you have an instant attraction with a man, why deny it?

The Dreaded LTR

This one is almost as bad as "no hookups". Ladies...we get it! You are on a dating site "saying" you are looking for an LTR (long-term relationship). Okay fine! Us divorced older men will accept this, but don't you think a relationship has to progress organically? Do you want to invest all of your time in a dude to find out in 3 months, he's still on the dating sites fucking other women?

Here's a thought for you!

You stick to your guns and keep denying the dude sex until you deem it's okay (total bullshit - there are 10,000 other pussies out there in any town...you don't have the golden pussy, sorry!) to only find out the sex is terrible. What a waste of time right? Why would you ever approach dating that way?

I'm not saying fuck the guy on the first date, although it's possible. I'm saying if there is chemistry, and you want to take it further early on, why not? Using your pussy for power is not cool, and most of us wise men will not wait. We know there is so much more out there, and you will be left in our dust, and on those dating sites for years to come.

The Woman's Demands For The Man

Here's another one that I find humor in. On a lot of women's online dating profiles they list out all that they want in a man (good luck finding it all in one man), and it comes across as demands. When you read a profile like this...run! Who does she think she is? My question back to her is "what do you bring to the table?" It better be at least equal to what you are demanding.

Sidenote: Most of us older, divorced men are looking for an equal partner. If a woman says she's looking for a man that makes $100K or more, then it's only fair she better bring that to the table, or something close right? Most of the men in our 50's do not want to be a sugar daddy. With feminism at an all-time high, it should be a no-brainer that women bring to the partnership as much, if not more than a man. If so, it's a win/win!

Age Criteria

This was my biggest concern with the online dating sites. I'm in my mid-50's. I absolutely hate the chronological number, but what most women don't understand from online is the biological number is what counts. If you ladies are stuck on the number, good luck with that!

The algorithm does not show my profile to most women in my ideal demographic, so I'm not seen by these women, putting me at an disadvantage right out of the gate.  Your only option is to 1) lie about your age, 2) be proactive in searching for your demographic and trying to get their attention.

Your Online Dating Pictures And Profile

Your Pictures

• Make sure they are no older than 3 months, preferably less than 30 days
• At least 1 headshot - no sunglasses
• 1-2 body shots - 1 in casual attire, the other showing your body if you're in shape
• 1-2 showing you doing your favorite activities

Your Bio

• Be brief to leave more to the imagination of the woman reading it. Make them curious
• Be edgy by telling them what you desire and find attractive in a women
• Make sure to refer to yourself as "man" not guy, dude or bro
• Have a call to action like - "Let's grab a coffee or drink"

I think I've covered quite a bit in this article, but you can expect more info (and stories) in future articles.

Please comment below with your experiences regarding online dating websites

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Until next time,
Marco