Sex On The First Date?

This is a very important topic for the divorced man 50 and over.

When I hit the open market, I had moved into a trendy apartment, and gotten all new furniture that looked great, so I felt like I had the ultimate bachelor pad.

Time to get laid ASAP right?

Once I really knew my marriage was over and the official divorce was underway with attorneys (hate those fuckers), I finally realized it's time to satisfy my sex drive. I was way overdue no doubt!

So the easiest approach I thought was online dating sites like Tinder and OK Cupid. I was all about hooking up so I lied about my age, and knew I could pull it off. I said 47. And went after late 30's to mid 40's.

Be Patient And Slow The Fuck Down

Because I was like a dog in heat, I did not know how to go about the first date. I'm a Type A, Alpha Male, so I went "all in", and would make sexual innuendos within 30 minutes of the date to feel out how she responds.

I was pretty smooth introducing sex into the topic, and slowly got physically closer to them to the point of body contact. As I kept pushing on that first date, I took the woman all the way to the point of her telling me..."my panties are soaking wet, but I'm not going to have sex with you on the first date, but I am definitely going home and taking care of myself". 

What the fuck!

No kidding! This woman had her hand on my hard dick on top of my pants, and would not go all the way. I just couldn't understand this. What did I do wrong? How could I get her to the point of saying that, and not close the deal? I was dumbfounded, to say the least.

So we parted ways, and I went home totally frustrated and of course had to 'whack it out' to relieve the pent-up frustration.

The Next Day

Here's where I screwed up multiple times with different women. I have a thick head, and did not catch this quick enough to change the outcome.

The next day or several days, when you text her, try to lay off the sex talk. Treat her like a high value woman and get to know her a bit better. If she brings it up, then of course respond, just don't make that communication about sex at all.

Me, on the other hand, made it all about the sex trying to carry it over from the night before. Where did it get me? 

Here is the exact text I received from not just one woman, but 3 within a 10 day period. 

"I think you are extremely sexy, I am attracted to you and you had me doing and saying things I've never said before, but I think we want different things. I want to wish you well."

There you have at! I'm supposed to be this wise, mature older man and I kept blowing it because I'd been out of the game for over 24 years.

Here's What You Should Do If You Want To Get Laid

Play it cool for the first date and even second. You can make sexual comments but then drop it and keep the convo going with everyday topics.

Remember, most guys do what I did, they let the girl know they want to get laid. 

Guess what?

You're making it all about you and your needs and that turns the woman off immediately.

Instead, if sex comes up, be cool about it like you get laid all the time, so it's no big deal if you don't with her. This will drive her crazy. Try it! The reason why...is you are separating yourself as that mature man who has self-control and can keep the topics of conversation on her, and not your needs.

Just make sure to give her a really nice, prolonged hug, and definitely a nice kiss but not overboard. Leave he wanting more. That's the key. You want her going back to her friends saying, "he didn't make a move on me". "He was so cool and collected". Her friends are going to be wondering who the fuck you are as well.

Stay tuned and share this website with any of your male friends who are recently divorced. Let's see if we can create a place where men can share their experiences. I do not want bitter, negative men commenting as that does no one any good. Just life experiences and solutions to speed up the learning curve.

Share your experiences below in the comments. Let's get this engagement cranking up fast!

Top resource For Divorced Men Over 50

The Rational Male 

Until next time,

Marco